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    Being Kindness

    September 27, 20131 Comment
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    By Dr. Marta Adelsman
    Life Coach in Communication and Consciousness
    www.DrMartaCoach.com 
    (September 27, 2013)

    A long-time friend from Chicago recently came to visit.  During one of our discussions, I mentioned that I’m eliminating the words “right” and “wrong” from my vocabulary and from the way I live life.

    My friend then asked a powerful question – “If we eliminate the concept of right/wrong, what is the basis on which we make choices? Where do the values come from that guide our decisions and interactions? For example, what motivates us toward kindness?”

    If you have been reading these articles for a while, you know I teach that we are not the ego, with all of its drama and chaos brought on by our beliefs, thoughts and emotions. What are we then?  Authentic Being.  We are the vast Silence in which thought, emotion, and all of our humanness exists.

    What resides in Being, instead of fluctuating thoughts and feelings, are permanent states. They never change.  When I hold the awareness that I am Being, I know that Being is kindness. Its very essence is Love.  It’s impossible for it to act from any other motive. 

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    My friend’s question sparked this insight: When I hold the awareness that my true self is that essence of kindness and love, I am then available to its influence.  I can relax into it.  When I focus on the fact that I am that Being, I no longer concern myself with whether or not I’ll choose kindness. If a situation calls for kindness, it shows up through me. I am lived by it.

    In some instances, kindness may not always appear sweet and gentle. When a situation calls for it, it will be there as tough love and hard truth.  When I focus on Being who I am, I simply know what response serves or doesn’t serve the given situation.

    I do not choose between right and wrong, whether to act from kindness or not-kindness. The ultimate choice lies between knowing who I really am authentically (Being) and who I am not (ego-mind).

    To live only from human-made concepts of right/wrong or good/bad narrows our creativity and disconnects us from our Source. That Source, rather than motivating us toward kindness, lives kindness through us.

    What else could it do?  That is what we are!

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    1 Comment

    1. Leigh Shafer on September 30, 2013 9:55 am

      This philosophy equates, in my mind, the same philosophy as raising children with no guidance. The theory of “if it feels good, do it” is the core basis of so very much of what is wrong with our world today.

      We need rules, guidance, core values, in order to live with others in any community, county, state, country, world. If each of us does what he or she deems appropriate at any given time, who is to say that one or another is right, the other is wrong? This is a concept that will surely lead to wars between people and countries.

      If we only lived in a small area or commune, this might work – but not in our complex, technology-driven world today.

      I applaud your rose covered world, but as for me, give me rules and guidelines, let us all live by the same standards and show respect for others in our belief in right and wrong.

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