Sedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde ValleySedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde Valley
    Sedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde Valley Sedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde Valley
    • Home
    • Sedona News
    • Business Profiles
    • Opinion
    • Mind & Body
    • Arts
    • Elections
    • Gift Shop
    • Contact
    • Cart
    Sedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde ValleySedona.Biz – The Voice of Sedona and The Verde Valley
    Home » Where’s the chocolate?
    Editorials/Opinion

    Where’s the chocolate?

    February 1, 2013No Comments
    Facebook Twitter Pinterest LinkedIn Email Reddit WhatsApp
    Share
    Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Pinterest Email Reddit WhatsApp

    photo_martaadelsmanBy Dr. Marta Adelsman
    Life Coach in Communication and Consciousness
    www.DrMartaCoach.com 
    (February 1, 2013) 

    To be honest, readers, I don’t want to write this column right now. I’ve been in a funk for the last day or two, and I’m just not in the mood!

    A couple of situations have arisen that have made me sad. I’ve also engaged in a conversation that hasn’t yet been resolved, and I feel angry.

    In another instance, I’m scared that I will disappoint a couple of friends because I have to change some plans to fly to Washington to see them. Then there’s that guilty little voice inside that says, “You can’t write your column. You have to be in a positive space to be able to write a column that’s uplifting, inspiring and enlightening.”

    So there you have it. I’m mad, sad, scared and guilty. I’m feeling sorry for myself, and I want to eat chocolate!

    When I feel this way, I have a ritual that usually restores me to a balanced state. I go to my journal and draw a line down a page, splitting it into two columns. I label the left column “Lies,” and the right column “The Truth.”

    I do this because I know that thoughts precede feelings. I name the thought preceding a negative feeling as a “lie” that my mind chatters at me. I believe that only “lies” result in negative feelings. When I have written down the mind chatter, I can use it as a springboard to get to the truth.

    Sedona Gift Shop

    Let me give you an example. In the case of communicating with my friends about not going to see them, the thought preceding my scared feeling goes like this: “You’re really letting your friends down! They’ll be so mad at you that they’ll withdraw their friendship!”

    Assuming that this thought is a lie, I then use it to formulate what’s really true: that these close friends of 20 and 30 years, while they may express disappointment, will understand about my change of plans. And they will work with me to develop alternate plans.

    Having just written that, I can feel myself begin to relax. The guilt and the fear are melting away, and I detect a budding feeling of confidence to call my friends and explain about the change.

    I offer you this journaling process as a way to move yourself into a more positive space when you feel angry, disappointed, sad or dissatisfied. The process supports you to become the observer of your emotions and your thought patterns. From the observer perspective, you have the power to choose new thoughts and, thus, to change how you feel.

    I’m going to excuse myself now. I have a phone call to make. Plus I have an appointment with a piece of chocolate!

    Comments are closed.


    The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    By Tommy Acosta
    Having grown up in the mean streets of the Bronx there is one lesson we learn early on, and that’s don’t mess with the cops when they got you down, and outnumbered. The beating of Tyre Nichols at the hands of the police preceding his death at the hospital could have been avoided if only he had the sense to not resist them. People fail to understand that on the streets, cops are basically “God.” You can’t fight them. If it takes one, two, five, ten or twenty officers they will eventually put you down and hurt you if they have to in the process of detaining or arresting you. In the Bronx we would fight amongst ourselves but when the cops came it was “Yes, officer. No, officer,” and do our best to look as innocent as possible. People need to understand that cops on the street represent the full power of the state and government. Read more→
    Recent Comments
    • Mary Ann Wolf on The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    • RC Posey on The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    • Matt Kaplan on The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    • Joe on The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    • Gary Marsh on The Sad Lesson of Tyre Nichols
    Check out the Tlaquepaque Magazine
    Categories
    © 2023 All rights reserved. Sedona.biz.

    Type above and press Enter to search. Press Esc to cancel.