By Dr. Marta Adelsman
Life Coach in Communication and Consciousness
(June 21, 2013, 2013)
Today I found myself humming the tune of the Beatles song, “Let It Be.” At the time it came out, I had no idea of the powerful impact those three words could have as a life practice. Since then, for me they have come to have a great deal of practical value.
I allowed my mind to examine the meaning of each of the three title words.
“Let,” I thought, means to allow. It involves non-resisting, relaxing, and releasing all attempts at forcing something to turn out in a particular way.
“It” refers to outer relationships, circumstances, events, conditions or situations I experience as well as the emotional and mental reactions I have to those outward elements.
“Be” means abiding and resting in a vast place of inner silence. This silence contains no judgment toward whatever “it” is. “Be” is the awareness that everything – all I do, think and experience – takes place within this stillness that totally accepts and acknowledges everything without judgment.
“Let it be” then means: Allowing and resting in the certainty that everything in my life can exist exactly as it is with no conflict caused by my resistance to it. Any experience I’m having is perfectly okay and needs nothing from me to change it, no matter how uncomfortable – or wonderful – it is. I don’t need to hold onto and try to replicate what’s “good.” I also don’t need to resist the “bad.”
Failure to let it be stems from resistance to what is. It can lead to manipulation, which might look like shouting, pouting, guilt tripping, forcing, giving the silent treatment, accusing, whining, slamming doors, stomping around, pleading, lying, cheating, pressuring, withholding, and needing to be right. These are all attempts to appease the ego’s fear of losing control.
For the sake of resolution, I can take action from a sense of inner peace. If I refuse to cross the line into bending people and situations to my will, troubles often resolve themselves. It may not happen in my timing, yet it always occurs in a time and in a way more satisfying than what I could have designed.
Speaking words of wisdom, there will be an answer if you let it be.