By Dr. Marta Adelsman
Life Coach in Communication and Consciousness
(December 27, 2017)
“I’m so sorry!” she choked through her sobs. “My mother will kill me!”
The impact was light enough that no one was hurt, no air bags deployed. When the other driver didn’t get out of the car right away, I approached her window. She rolled it down and I saw her hyperventilating and crying, her head in her hands. She seemed near panic.
Even as her car came toward me and I knew the inevitability of impact, I realized nothing happens unless it is ultimately for our good. I’ve cultivated trust in the spiritual Essence that lives me, and now I gratefully experienced the fruits of that trust — a sense of calm in the face of adversity.
I didn’t need to blame her, and neither did I blame myself. I have no control over the occurrences in my life, yet I can choose how I will respond to them. To put it simply, Life has lived this young woman and me into this situation.
“She’ll just kill me!” the young woman repeated.
“She’s not killing you right now, is she?” I replied. “In this moment, let’s just focus on the job in front of us, which is to get the police here. Then you can deal with your mother.” She calmed down, and we made the necessary phone calls. After the policeman had completed his procedures and before we left the scene, the young woman turned to me. “Thank you for being so calm,” she said through a smile.
When we withdraw blame, we unlock the prison of our own suffering. As a non-judgmental observer, we soar above our events and circumstances. Our freedom can help set others free, too, as we understand that it’s all just happening.