Dear Coach,

I am in a rut – with life and business! My friends, and professional work, just don’t stimulate me any more. I’ve had the same friends for years, and I know I’ve changed, but a lot of the people I hang out with are still doing the same things they did twenty years ago. I really want to attract some new friends, and maybe a new job, but I’m dragging my feet because I don’t know what to do! How can I get motivated to transform my life?   - Itching for a change in Colorado

Dear Itching,

Wow! I can see a whole life makeover approaching, and… it also sounds like you may have been watching The Secret. I’ve held many “attraction” workshops throughout the past few years, and this yearning for transformation and attracting change is a common theme.

As we grow along our path, our needs and wants may vary frequently. But others in our life can be satisfied and happy with a lifestyle that they have led for a long time and have no desire to modify anything. When one starts thinking about making big life changes, roadblocks can certainly jump into our path and hold us hostage for long periods of time.

Sometimes it helps to gain clarity by writing things down. Let’s start with an exercise that will give you insight into your present situation. To begin with, think about, or write, answers to these questions about the people in your life right now:

►What similarities are there in all these men and women?
►Why did I originally attract them?
►Do they still meet my needs and desires as friends, or co-workers?
►Are they loving and respectful and support me on this life’s journey?
►Is my overall environment one that inspires me and makes me happy? If not, why?

The second part of this assignment is about attracting who, what and how you desire in your life.
Think about the people and circumstances that you would like to be surrounded with. What qualities do you want to be exhibited around you – warmth, humor, nurturing, groundedness?

Make three columns on a large piece of paper. (I like to use LARGE paper so that I don’t cramp my style. Easel paper is great for this.)

Be totally objective about “who” you want in your life. The “what” may need clarity and focus work on its own. And the “how” might involve some foundational work on your values and what is most important in your life—before you move on to how you will specifically attract what you desire.

When you get absolutely clear about what you desire your life to look like, you will start
automatically attracting the circumstances and people to make it materialize. However, this transitioning may take several months (or longer) and dedication on your part. It is important to understand that one must also take action to manifest what is desired!

Now, tape your “exercise paper” on the wall where you can see if often and where it is available for you to make changes—and simply to play with ideas. Ask yourself if changes are due, and if so, how you want them to take place. Overall, this exercise is meant to give you insight on how you want to alter your life to attract exactly what and who you desire.

Experiment with your own “attraction plan of action”. Try it on paper first, and if it makes sense to you, begin a strategy for renovating your life. This turn in the path may be very challenging for you, but you get to choose the life, and the people in it, that bring you happiness.
Remember that there are therapists, counselors and coaches who can give you support as you journey. You do not have to do this alone!

In my next column, I will address what makes people attractive to others and some thoughts on how you can be a magnet, as you take action, drawing the circumstances and people you desire into your life. If you would like to explore an in-depth approach to your own “Attraction Plan of Action”, please contact me! I am passionate about your success!

Sharon Hooper, PCC, is Your Holistic Life Coach and Creator of Vision Mapping Strategies©, author and speaker who is passionate about helping others succeed in life and business. To find out more about Sharon, visit her websites www.VisionJourneys.com and www.SanctuaryPublications.com or drop her an email at Sharon@VisionJourneys.com. copyright 2006 by Sharon Hooper